Thusnelda wrote:First, thanks for having an open conversation here.
Thank you also. This really is one fo those things I struggle getting my mind completely around. It's more then just words or semantics to me.
I get not using the r word. I said right way I've tried to stop using it. Like any word "they don't like" I assume the reason a group doesn't want to hear a word anymore is because there's a lot of hurt and pain associated with it's use. I'm PC enough that "they don't like it" is a plenty good reason for me to stop using a hurtful word.
Being me, I have to then really think about what make the word or words hurtful.
I try and be a pretty nice person and I don't like being mean to people.
But at the same time I'm not the most sensitive person. I also swear like a sailor. And I like insults. Roasts are some of my favorite humor. And at the core of every insult is a comparison that can be hurtful and mean to a person or group who's being held up as the example of what one doesn't want to be.
I realize that doesn't make me the best person on the scale of human kindness.
So I get to.
The connotation of any insult is based on something being of less value and that why it's insulting to be called it.
when Jeff wrote :
Unless you happen to be developmentally disabled.
I read that as meaning developmentally disabled is an insult, something someone wouldn't want to be. That's how insults work.
I don't thinks anyone disagrees that taunting, or making fun of the disabled is anything but cruel. But what about using them as the negative side of an insult? Still seems wrong to me.
But I really like insults. And my non PC part doesn't think we should limit thoughts or speech just because it's insulting or hurtful.
So it goes on and on in head. If I was a better person maybe I'd be able to give the insults up completely. As it is I do try and at least think about what the words I use really mean.
But don't get me wrong; I still swear like a sailor
Me too. Like Rahm I can drop an f bomb pretty easily.
Thanks for you perspective on the whole thing. Some of us do try and listen.