Collateral damage? Sad? I have to disagree. She is culpable. She is not collateral damage - she inflicted damage and she knows it, too.
There is no way in hell she didn't know. She chose to turn a blind eye and let her husband carry on. In exchange for . . . what? I'm guessing it was in exchange for the wealth and cachet that went along with her husband's position. Maybe she convinced herself that it really wasn't all that bad for the boys involved, that they were getting more help than hurt, in the overall scheme of things. Or maybe she just didn't care. In any event, she clearly didn't care as much about those boys as she cared about herself. Collateral damage, my ass.